A few months back I listened to an interview with today’s guest on The Almost 30 Podcast, with Krista Williams and Lindsay Simcik. If you’re not familiar with the Almost 30 Podcast, it’s quickly become one of my favourites. Their episodes on spirituality, enmeshment to family, codependency, and health have been the catalyst to a lot of deep diving in the last several months, especially during lockdowns.
Sidebar: You do not need to be under 30 to resonate with this podcast. In fact the hosts are in their 30’s.
I found their interview with Terri Cole to be so impactful, that I started following and consuming Terri’s content right away.
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss – The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change.
IN THIS EPISODE OF THE KICK-ASS STEPMOM PODCAST WE TALK ABOUT
How society has taught women to be self-sacrificing codependents
What it means to be codependent
The importance of looking at our past aka “Cleaning out the basement” in truly understanding our behaviours and tendencies as an adult
Terri explains her term “a high-functioning” codependent, which is a term I think that a lot of us can relate to
Situations where a stepmom’s codependency can result in resentment
The aftermath of setting boundaries – what you can expect from people who are impacted
Terri’s experience as a stepmom to three boys who lost their Mother
The 24 hour rule and how it prevents you from overcommitting
Communication, mindfulness practices, setting boundaries with your partner
I recommend a lot of books to this community. If I were to choose one book out of them all, it would be this one. I highly highly recommend getting yourself a copy.
FOR MORE FROM TERRI COLE
Get her free guide: Codependency & Boundaries
Visit her website
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LET’S DEBRIEF IN THE EXCLUSIVE STEPMOM COMMUNITY
If you want to take it to the next level and really dive into your own boundary process, I opened up a section of the forum in the Exclusive Stepmom Community for anyone who needs support or another perspective in creating boundaries for themselves.
If you are a member, you can find it in the forum. If you’re not a member.. as of today, you can join for less than 26 cents a day…
Yeah, it’s not expensive. It’s insanely cheap. It’s priced so that it’s a space you can go to when you need support or want to dive into next level content… without feeling like you need to be using it all the time to get its value.
I also hang out in the ASK JAMIE section of the forum, so if you haven a question or need support/advice about your specific stepfamily situation, you can find me there.