As we go into the last weeks of 2023, I have been reflecting on this last year.
It’s been a hard one. One with lots of pivoting and personal growth.
Both personally, and with this platform (The KICK-ASS Stepmom Community), I have learned many lessons and have been forced to make significant changes in how I show up.
You know what they say, “if you want something you’ve never had, you need to do something you’ve never done.”
When I found myself in burnout earlier this year, I knew I needed to shift how I care for myself.
Since then, radical self-care, hormone health and stress management have been a priority for me.
It’s been a slow process, with lots of ebbs and flows. However, implementing micro habits has helped me make significant improvements in how I feel.
Here are some of the habits that have helped:
I’ve hopped on the Stanley Tumblr train, and not just because it’s what all the cool moms do on Instagram. But because It has significantly increased the amount of water that I drink every day.
I’m up to 4-5 40oz of water each day. It’s changed the way I feel and supported me in dropping some extra lbs.
But not just the water. At least one of my tumblers has LMNT Salt in it. A growing body of research reveals optimal health outcomes occur at sodium levels 2-3x government recommendation. Salt is not a bad thing. We need it.
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1000 mg sodium, 200 mg potassium, 60 mg magnesium.
It makes a huge difference in how I feel.
I drink in the morning, before/during a workout and before/after I indulge in cocktails.
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I used to prioritize a 5 am wake-up. I was in hustle mode. But hustle mode resulted in increased stress and burnout.
Now, I prioritize 8 hours of sleep. Yes, I am still a morning person, but if I don’t get to bed on time, I adjust my alarm to ensure I get enough zzzz.
Tips for Improving Your Sleep:
– no screens at least an hour before bed
– stop eating after 7pm
– read before bed
WORKING WITH A FUNCTIONAL DOCTOR
Working with a functional doctor specializing in women’s health has been a game changer. We tested my hormones and stress levels, and it’s unreal what she could tell me about how I was feeling from my blood tests alone. Painful periods and an activated nervous system were my baseline for so long. I’ve been taking supplements to balance things out. It’s a slow process, but every month, I feel better.
If you’re interested in working with a Functional Doctor or naturopath, I recommend doing the research and asking for recommendations from other women in your area.
PERMISSION TO REST
We live in this go go go society. A jam-packed schedule is not something to be proud of. Resting is a lost art. It’s something that I struggled with since becoming a mom and entrepreneur.
I have a hard time shutting down my brain. I wake up thinking of everything I should be doing.
Women have more pressure than ever before. With our careers and the mental load of managing households, we’re wearing way too many hats.
Shifting into rest mode has been challenging but very effective for me.
I am ruthless with my calendar now.
It doesn’t need to be a call if it can be an email.
If I can ask for help, I ask for help.
Delegate to elevate.
White space on my calendar is a must. I listen to my body and my mind. When I am feeling activated, overwhelmed or depleted, I take a rest.
Our body tells us what we need. We need to listen to the signs.
There is so much power in sitting down, taking some deep breaths and doing absolutely nothing. Even if it’s for 15 minutes.
Meditation is a powerful tool. It’s a habit that almost all high performers have.
I notice when it is off.
A daily meditation practice was challenging for me, until I found Super Human App.
The app has daily meditations that you can do while multitasking. In addition to your standard seated meditation, there are cleaning meditations, getting ready mediations, meditations for travel and running errands.
There are also one for journaling with amazing prompts to help you stay on track.
This resource has been a game changer for resetting my energy and focus throughout the day. It supports me to show up in a way that’s aligned with the life I am trying to create.
When my energy shifts or I feel discouraged or distracted, I pop on a superhuman meditation to reset.
Superhuman offers a free 2-week trial, and with the code KICKASSSTEPMOM you can get an additional 4 weeks free. Join via a browser using that code and set yourself up. Click here to learn more.
These tips have nothing to do with being a stepmom, but trust me they help. When you’re taking care of yourself, you’re far less triggered by things that are outside of your control. You have the ability to think logically about a situation and show up as the best version of you.
I can share many more tips that have helped me over the last year. If you’d like more content like this let me know and I’ll share more!